Searching my archives for something else entirely, I ran into this paragraph, written in February 2003, just before the invasion of Iraq.
So far, the debate about the invasion of Iraq has involved far less vituperation than was the case about Vietnam. As far as I know, I haven’t lost any friends by being pro-war, and I wouldn’t expect to lose any if tomorrow I became anti-war. That civility is worth holding on to, and won’t be easy to hold onto if the thing goes badly, as well it might.
I claim points for prescience. “The thing” did go badly, and the civility wasn’t easy to hold on to.